Here is a guest post by The Real SuperMum where she shares her experience of having children close in age. She is a hero and I am very thankful that she agreed to be a guest on my blog. Enjoy…
I often receive a shocked response when I state the ages of my children, the children are aged 1, 2, 3, 8, 9, and 13. I guess you are now thinking wow she’s very keen or completely nuts, I will go with the latter.
Having 3 children under 4 can be very rewarding and the positives easily outweigh the stressfulness. All 3 of the children were planned so close together and I have to say I find it easier to have a close age gap than I do a few years apart. I do have an 11 month age gap with 2 of my elder children so I knew what to expect, we just added an extra. I can somewhat relate to an elephant as I was pregnant for almost 3 years.
The benefits of having children close in age;
- The dirty nappies, the sleepless nights and the temper tantrums etc are all over with together and you become an expert in these areas so they become easier to deal with, rather than getting back to some normality to have to start all over again.
- The children are close in milestones and abilities so 1 activity will happily keep them entertained, rather than having to meet individual social needs.
- They have close bonds, they can entertain each-other and they all play with the same age range of toys
- The savings are great as you can pass down clothing and baby items and they are all still in fashion.
- When one starts nursery there is already a sibling there
- They teach each-other in many ways, the younger siblings want to learn to walk, talk and run much faster than normal due to wanting to keep up with the others.
It can be difficult, the worst has to be when they demand my attention at the same time, they do not understand yet that they have to share toys let alone their mummy and when they want something it has to be now, wait a moment is not in their vocabulary.
There are some days when all 3 of them are bickering, tired and snatching toys or trying to grab at each-other and I stand looking over them thinking am I insane for doing this? Then they will all come and hug me and say “Love you mummy” and I know its all worthwhile.
If I were to have another child, I would be tempted to have another straight after, so it can’t be all that bad.
The younger 3 children have more in common than what my 9 year old daughter and 13 year old daughter does, just 4 years in age apart separates them so much, they both enjoy different activities and no longer share the same age development . While my 13 year old discusses boys on her mobile with friends, my 9 year old is sat reading Bambi while snuggling into her favourite teddy bear. My 9 year old daughter has more in common with her 8 year old brother, due to the close age gap, despite him being a boy.
I do hope that the children will continue to be close and develop their own individual personalities yet will always be there for each other as they are now.
“The Real Supermum is a mum to 6 and runs a support network for mums who have suffered troubled pasts, she also blogs in the hope of ensuring no other women ever has to feel alone and frightened as she once did. You can read her open and honest blog to find out more; The Real Supermum Blog.”